Get your loved one sober: Alternatives to nagging, pleading, and threatening is a fantastic book for family members who have a loved with a drug or alcohol problem and where the person isn’t willing to seek treatment. We use this with almost all the family members we work with at Sober Families.
Beyond Addiction: How Science and Kindness can Help People Change, is a newer book that comes from the same perspective as Sober Families. It offers a warm, optimistic, and encouraging approach to helping family members change. This is a great book for families who are looking to help their loved one and want concrete things that they can do that will help.
Getting an Addict into Treatment: The CRAFT Approach [film]. HBO made a show about the CRAFT approach as part of their show “Intervention.”
Dr. Meyers, the main originator of CRAFT, has a website where he has some information about CRAFT.
The Center for Motivation and Change has a website where they have some tips and ideas for parents who have children with an addiction. It’s well put together and they call it the “20 Minute Guide for Parents.”
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Support Groups for Families with Addictions
Al-Anon is a support group based on Alcoholics Anonymous for family members of loved ones with alcohol problems. To find out more about Al-Anon, including group meeting times, check out:
Nar-Anon is a support group based on Narcotics Anonymous for family members of loved ones with drug problems. To find out more about Nar-Anon, including group meeting times, check out:
SMART Recovery is a support group for people with addictions and their families that is not based on the AA/12-step model. More information about SMART Recovery, including meeting times of groups, check out:
Secular Organizations of Sobriety (SOS) is a non-religious/non-spiritually based support group for people with addictions. Information about SOS can be found at:
To sign up for SOS’s online family support group, go to:
Oregon Alcohol and Drug Treatment Centers
For a list of addiction treatment providers and centers in Oregon, you can access the Oregon Department of Health Services (DHS) website at:
A list for treatment centers that are similar or supportive of SMART Recovery practices can be found at:
A list of treatment centers in Oregon (you can search for treatment centers in other states) is located at:
Another website to search treatment centers in the U.S. can be found at:
Two national alcohol and treatment centers that have many online resources that can be helpful, as well as information about their clinics, are Hazelden and DePaul (DePaul’s clinics are located in and near Portland, OR):
Resources to help keep you safe from violence
If you are in immediate danger, please call 911 or go to your local police station.
The Domestic Violence Resource Center website includes numerous toll-free or local (if you live in Portland, Oregon) phone numbers to talk with someone or to receive more information about how to keep you and your loved ones safe:
Toll-free national hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
The National Resource Center on Domestic Violence (NRCDV) website includes a toll-free number you can call to talk with someone, as well as resources on domestic violence:
Toll-free national hotline: 1-866-469-8600
Portland, Oregon phone number: 503-469-8620
To find a list of domestic violence resources in Oregon, go to Domestic Violence section of the Oregon Department of Human Services (DHS):
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